"When you judge another, you don't define them, you define yourself."
Jason and I have been taking ballroom dance lessons since July and we have not kept that a secret. When I first started writing about it on FB someone commented, "Does anyone else have any secrets they want to post?" I purposely did not want to hide it. I find it more difficult to get to know people in the church than people from work or the kid's school. It seems there's an unspoken approved list of things to talk about such as work, kids, church, sports, school. We can't reveal too much about our personal lives. We can't talk about drinking or dancing and we have to be really careful discussing books, movies, or music. We try to build relationships with people in church by walking on eggshells and not revealing too much about ourselves. This makes for some very shallow relationships. I really don't feel like people are judging me and it wouldn't bother me if they were because I struggle with that myself at times- we all do.
